#MondayMotivation is a place we put inspirations tips and quotes to get you through your work week. This week, genius ideas about the power of self talk from C. James Jensen… and a few tips from us.
The incredible power of your own self talk – excerpt by C. James Jensen.
What we say to others is not nearly as important as what we say to ourselves. We talk to ourselves all day long at the rate of 150-300 words per minutes, or, over 50,000 thoughts per day.
While you are reading these words you are having a simultaneous dialog with you self about what you think of this writing, while also “discussing” internally the most important items on today’s “to do” list as well as other pressing matters. This thinking, or self talk, occurs through the conscious area of our mind.
What most people are unaware of is out self talk becomes an instruction to our subconscious whose duty it is to carry out the “orders” from the “boss” or the conscious area of our mind, positive or negative. The subconscious is our own personal servo-mechanism that works on our behalf 24/7. It never sleeps.
What we say to ourselves, or how we may describe ourselves to others, occurs through the conscious level of thought. If we are repeatedly saying. “I can never remember names,” “my marriage is falling apart,” “I never have enough money,” etc. these statements become instructions to the subconscious area of our mind whose duty is to work tirelessly to insure these “instructions” are brought into “reality.”
It is important to note, we don’t get what we want, we get what we expect unless what we want and what we expect are the same.
As stated previously, it is our own self talk which created our self concept(s) and there is a one to one relationship between our self concept and out level of performance.
If we want to improve our level of performance or effectiveness in any area of our life, we need to improve our self concept. We improve our self concept by deliberately creating new language that describes our new desired result. Through repetition our revised self talk reprograms our subconscious with “new instructions” which our subconscious immediately goes to work to fulfill.
The subconscious is totally non-judgmental. It does not argue what is right or wrong or what may be the best for us. It simply works to effect what it is being told to do by our conscious mind.
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Now that you’re aware of the power of your self talk, here are a few tips to help change your self concept:
The first step is to identify your negative self talk. Every time you find yourself saying something negative about what you are doing, write it down. Ask your family members/friends what they have heard you saying to get another perspective.
2. Pick three
Pick your top three thoughts that you’d like to change. Don’t try and change all your thoughts at once, work step by step to change your thought process. Once you have reframed those negative thoughts, you can work on new ones.
3. Reframe your thoughts positively.
Each time you find yourself having one of your three negative thoughts, stop and reframe your thoughts. Always think in the present tense. If you find yourself saying “I am so disorganized” change your thought to “I am organized” instead of “I will be an organized person” this will cause your brain to react in the current instead of passing it off as a future task.
Also when Monday gets you down, remember…you got this.